Anger is a universal emotion experienced by all humans although, the interpretation of anger is individual. Anger can be destructive, forceful and dangerous; it can also be motivating, energising and impulsive.
It is understood that early ancestors of man experienced anger as a form of self-preservation; an innate aggression to survive.
“Civilisation began the first time an angry person cast a word instead of a rock” Sigmund Freud. As man has evolved so too has the drive and experience of anger. For example, twentieth century social movements i.e. civil rights, feminism, and human rights groups, demonstrate how anger may be collectively utilised in the advancement of change. Thematically, both examples offer a sense of how dynamic anger is; keeping the body and mind stimulated and available.
Anger is a fluid emotion; usual and healthy but with the potential to be problematic. Where anger becomes consuming, uncontrollable and destructive, it may be important to explore the relationship with it.
Understanding the nature of the relationship with anger including, physical response, the experience and perception of the emotion and subsequent behaviour is important. This involves approaching anger in ‘thought out’ way; understanding its meaning, recognising its power, its valid uses and the responsibilities attached to it.
Child or adult anger, what’s the distinction? It is considered that there are more similarities than differences between the two. However, the management of anger may be different in context of a child’s stages of development. Where children utilise unsophisticated responses and continue to develop strategies to survive.
If you are concerned about anger and its impact, you may wish to talk to your GP. Your GP may suggest a range of approaches e.g. self-help, group activities, medication or talking therapy such as counselling.
Counselling provides a confidential space to explore emotions such as anger and to consider healthy ways to make changes.
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